5 Traits of Highly Successful Women

I have interviewed some of the best and brightest women for MySavvySisters.Com. Most of them are thought leaders, entrepreneurs and highly successful women. As I reflect back on the core principles of their characters, I have noticed a few common themes that may be useful to you as you assess your personality.

A Highly Successful Woman

1. Does not have friends
Sure, there may be ONE person this woman trusts without reservation but walking down the street arm in arm with a group of women is not on this woman's agenda at all. She doesn't hate other women, she merely finds that the cattiness, jealousy and petty behavior is beneath her.

2. Is not competitive
She is in a class all of her own and she knows this. She doesn't believe that any woman can do what she does better than she does it so she sees no woman as a threat to her in business, romantic relationships or social situations.

3. Offers a service/product that helps others
The main ingredient to this woman's success is her ability to be a resource to others. She uses her feminine powers to offer her intelligence and wisdom to help others succeed.

4.  Expects to win
The most highly successful woman believes she will win at the game of life. She expects to meet her goals and sees obstacles as challenges to get what she wants. Not meeting her goal is a scenario that does not enter into her mind. She knows her vision is attainable and the challenge of meeting it is a mental exercise.

5. Is not caught up on romantic relationships
She believes a life partner is an accessory to her life goals but it is not her main focus. She is often single because she knows she can live her life alone and be perfectly happy. She may get married but her husband is not her driving force or her lifeline. He is simply someone to share her life with and if her relationship does not work out, her world does not crumble around her.

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The Model's Uniform & Why It Works

Fashion is fleeting. It reflects the ideas of the marketing strategies of the era. Whatever the clothing manufacturers want to sell more of, they push into fashion magazines, drape across celebrities and flaunt in fashion shows to convince you that this particular style will make you one of the beautiful people.

It won't; but it sure does boost your confidence in a sick twisted way. It's amazing that off the runway, you won't see models and celebrities strolling casually in the strange combinations created by the fashionably elite. The truly beautiful don't bother to accessorize much because they get enough attention as it is.

The model's uniform is made up of 3 pieces.

1) The T-shirt - This is usually a plain white shirt and can have various sleeve lengths.
2) Jeans- These are worn in a variety of styles, lengths and condition.
3) Heels- Any color, any style, any height.

When the model combines these 3 simple pieces with a simple bracelet, sunglasses and a pair of earrings, she is already ready for the paparrazi.

Why This Works

The real secret to beauty isn't the fancy hairstyles or expensive bags. The real secret to beauty is the confidence behind the clothes. Models already KNOW that they are beautiful so they don't need to TRY to keep up with the latest trends. Knowing you are beautiful is your little secret that shines from every pore.

A true test of real beauty is to wear the Model's Uniform everyday and not care what anyone thinks or says about you. Ditch the designer duds and expensive hairstyles that take attention away from your face and hide your shine. Dare to be simple and neat and beautiful without all the extra fuss.

You ARE beautiful and you don't need to mimic the fashion magazines to prove it.

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The Number 1 Reason You Are Unhappy

Life is hard at times. There are decisions that have to be made that affect your life and the lives of others. There is drama at work, family feuds and sometimes we wake up in the morning and our jeans just won't fit. Whether the trials of life seem large or small, a few consecutive days being confronted by these issues will add up and lead to a personal great depression that is bigger than any this country has ever seen.

The truth is, and this is a big pill to swallow, the reason you are unhappy is because, you want to be.

This may seem foolish as you say to yourself, "I am not a masochist. I don't like pain." But to be honest, any emotion that you experience for more than 60 seconds is a choice. Whichever emotion you are experiencing right now is a result of placing your attention on thoughts that fuel that particular emotion.

You're focused on your losses. You're focused on the negative events you've seen on the news. You're focused on the horrible things people have said to you in the past. You're wondering why you have yet to reach the place in life where you feel you deserve to be.

Life is supposed to be like THIS, you say. But the reality is, it doesn't.

There was no contract that you signed upon your arrival on earth that stated that you will experience certain events at certain times and there would never be times of uncertainty. No one could ever script your life in this way because if they did, it wouldn't be life, it would be a movie. Life is not a movie. Circumstances don't arise, hit a crescendo and work themselves out within an 130 minute period.

It's okay if it takes you more than 4 years to finish college. It's perfectly fine if your first real relationship falls apart. It's not abnormal to realize that your life hasn't been mapped out by the age of 30. It's okay not to know what will happen next.

You are unhappy because you want to control every circumstance of your life. You are unhappy because you keep thinking about those circumstances you can't control and you have decided that since you can't control those situations then life is bad.

You are the authority who decides what is good or bad. When you decide that life not meeting your expectations is a bad thing you are choosing to be unhappy. You can easily decide that everything is a good thing. It seems silly but it will bring a great deal of relief and wonder to your life as you encounter those surprise twists and turns.

It's okay. You can start over from here. Shrug your shoulder at the uncertainties that you encounter and ask yourself, "I wonder what good this will bring."

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How To Prove Your Worth In One Step

If anyone ever asks you to prove your worth, just do this.

You don't ever, ever, EVER, EVER have to prove your worth to anyone. You are valuable because you say so. Your work and life speaks for itself. Walk the hell away and let them find someone else to bully.

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3 Ways To Recognize Your Free Spirit

You are already free but for some reason you don't know it. Shake off the shackles and recognize just how free and easy your life really is.

1. You don't have to ask anyone for anything.

You work for what you have and you don't need to beg, borrow, steal or manipulate anyone to get what you want. If you want it, you buy it. If it pleases you, you do it. You don't need anyone's permission to live, love or treat yourself- and that, my sister, is priceless.

2. You enjoy your own company the most.

You don't need a crowd to have fun. You don't require a consensus to enjoy a night out. All you need is your ID, 20 bucks and your GPS. The rest of the night you are the star in creating your own adventure.

3. You know everything's okay.

There is no such thing as bad news. All roads lead to a new adventure and you love it. Whether you get what you want or not or whether you win or lose, you understand that you are the authority who decides what should be labeled good or bad. You can make the best out of any situation and look good while doing it. You don't demand that life follows your prescribed path and you are happier everyday because of it.

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How To Raise Your Standards For Life

We all have a set of expectations for our lives which include the way we allow others to interact with us, the kind of jobs we pursue and the relationships we have in our lives. If for any reason, you find yourself wanting more, it's okay to raise your standards, in fact, it is imperative.

Raising your standards for your life is a risk that many will not undertake simply because it requires effort and many of the people, places and things you were used to will have to be removed. Similar to a life change like a relocation, upgrading your life in any area will cause you to feel scared and uneasy because until you actually achieve the upgrade you will wonder if it is even possible for you.

It is.

You can have it.

You can have the better job with better pay.
You can have the man who adores you and never disrespects you.
You can have the friends who uplift you.
You can have the healthy body.

The strongest drawback to raising your standards for your life is the fact that when you make the decision to raise your standards, your whole world will seem to be against your decision.

When you decide that you no longer want to work a wage job, you will find that sharing this news with your wage-job working friends will cause unrest because they won't understand or accept your decision. They may berate you, belittle you or even try to sabotage your efforts. For some reason when others see that you want more for your life and they believe they can't have it, they will try to prove to you (sometimes unknowingly) that you can not have it either.

Raising your standards will take great effort on your part because you will have to be strong enough to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You have to be willing to lose everything you have to gain what you believe you want when there is no guarantee that you will ever be able to have it.

The key is to live your life as though your standard has already been met, accept no substitutions and be willing to let go of anything that does not meet your new qualifications.

Yes, they will laugh at you and tell you that you think you are better than they are. Yes, it will hurt as the world you know comes crashing down and you enter into new territory. No, it won't feel good to have to say goodbye to family, fake friends and familiar complacency. It's going to be tough but until you set a new standard, you won't move forward in life.

Say goodbye to your old life. Raise the bar for your expectations and what you will accept in love, career and social interactions. Stick with it. Fight for it. Be willing to be alone if you can't have the relationship you want. Be willing to downgrade your lifestyle if you can't have the job you really want right away. Be willing to go out to dinner alone if you can't surround yourself with the type of people who reflect what you really want from life.

It takes sacrifice and it hurts to be the odd woman out but in the end, your life will shift and all of those people who would not support the shift will be a distant memory.

You can do this.

Set a new standard.

Stick to it.

Receive it.

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7 Ways To Relieve Stress Without Lifting A Finger

We experience stress when we feel that we are faced with situations that we can not control. Whether you are stressed about the actions of others or situations that seem like they are too much for you to handle, there are ways to relieve the pressure of ALL stress from your life.

Try these 7 Tips for mental stress relief. Consider them promises for your life. 

1. Relax. Life doesn't have to be obedient to your demands. In fact, it won't, and that's okay.
2. Let your children (and friends) live their lives the way they want to. You can't control them or save them and you shouldn't try to because it robs them of their chance to learn and grow.
3. When you don't get what you want, understand that it's truly the best thing that ever happened to you.
4. Your body is your greatest gift. It provides transportation for your spirit and allows you to experience the pleasures of life. You aren't a teenager anymore and you don't have to look like one to feel beautiful. Fall in love with your curves.
5. What you need to continue on your path is already on its way to you. It's coming.
6. Your relationship status does not define you. You define yourself. You make the rules. You are loved. You ARE love. Recognize the love that is already around you and passionately return it.
7. However you want life to be, don't wait, simply DO it. Live your life that way right now without waiting for permission or the proper equipment. Think outside of the box and go back to your childhood play. Yes, you have it now.

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Don't Peak Too Early

Are you baffled by the fact that the best stuff on your life's To-Do list hasn't been checked off yet? Are you impatient about achieving your goals and seeing everything come together? Are you beating yourself up every night because your dream didn't come true that day?

Yeah. Me too.

I threw a major hissy fit last night. No, I wasn't depressed. I was super mad at myself and wondering what the hell I am doing wrong where I'm not a millionaire literary giant with my own speaking tour and mansion. What the hell? I know I have the talent, why hasn't my time come yet?

I decided to give up. I'm giving up on trying to figure out WHY it hasn't happened yet and continuing to focus on doing what I love to do. After I gave up being miserable about it, the answer was very simple. It actually came to me as that small still voice in my intuition. It said: Don't peak too early.

I sat up in bed astonished by what I heard. My mind whirled with images of people who achieved success so early in life that their later years told the tale of a steady decline into oblivion. Should I really have made all of my dreams come true by now? If so, what would I have to look forward to later?

Since nothing is permanent and all of life's circumstances are on a cycle, maybe now is the perfet time to keep building and growing and making a foundation for myself. That's what I'm doing; I'm building.

Imagine if I had already peaked at age 25, could I handle the decline of my youth, my health and my life dreams all at the same time?

Whoaaa buddy! Hold your horses, fate! I'm not ready to think about the end just yet but, I'm 32. This is a very nice age; young enough to still wonder if dreams come true, but old enough to recognize that you have to work to make them happen.

I'm okay right here. I'm okay right now.

Life is pretty good right here. I don't have to compare myself to women who are twice my age or who have been working for decades longer than I have.

I have time, I think. If I don't, I won't be able to miss out because I will be dead already.

It's too early for me to peak if I have a long life ahead of me. Let me slow down, dive into my goals and learn as much as I can before the whirlwind begins.

I forgive myself for being so hard on myself. I love myself. I thank myself.

I am okay where I am.

It's coming. The longer it takes the longer it will last.

I am okay.

Salud.

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Don't Cheat To Win; Be Number 3

A friend of mine recently mentioned to me that she was accused of cheating. We both laughed at the notion simply because we both hold the same mentality about it. It's not that we are prudish or fear karma or the wrath of god; we simply do not cheat because we do not need to win.

Think about a person who strategically maneuvers situations so that they will come out on top. That person is crafty, intelligent and cunning and SHOULD come out on top of every situation due to their manipulations and extra effort. The flip side to a person who will do whatever it takes to win is the sad reality that the person is desperately seeking validation from others. They NEED to win, to be applauded, to be labeled the BEST because they need to hear it from others or they won't feel worthy.

Cheaters are losers because they feel that they can not win by their own merits. They don't believe in their abilities and desperately need to be awarded by others regardless of their real talent. If you feel that you need to be number ONE at everything, pause, take that manipulative energy and streamline it toward actually becoming GREAT at what you love to do.

Greatness isn't defined by how many awards you've earned. Anyone can win a trophy after sabotaging their competition and that is why awards from others mean nothing. True greatness is defined by the amount of pride you have in yourself when you have completed a task or project.

You can be GREAT at anything and you don't need a committee to select you. All you need is your own knowledge that you did what you love to do with the greatest amount of energy and passion you possess and what you produced is your very best effort.

You don't have to cheat. Let the woman who desperately needs to be number one, be number one. Let her have that status, she needs it more than you do or she'll cry every night. I say, be number 3. There's less pressure to maintain that status, a few rewards and you can still stand among the top in your game without having to hurt anyone in the process.

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Top 10 Signs of Mental Maturity In Women

By Te-Erika Patterson

1. We let go of the idea that there is a prescribed timeline of events for life. We release the expectations of life milestones and begin to look at life as it really is, an unscripted adventure. We allow others to live their lives as they wish, without judging them because we appreciate being free to do the same.

2. We release the notion that other women are our competition. All efforts to sabotage the success of other women becomes silly to us and we seek to form alliances instead of enemies.

3. Instead of believing unfavorable circumstances will leave permanent scars that we will never recover from, we understand that those scars are really the seasoning that makes our lives flavorful. We learn to roll with the punches.

4. We understand that we are no longer teenagers and we begin to appreciate our bodies as they are. Good health takes precedence over a flat stomache and we become grateful for LIFE.

5. We stop believing everything we hear and stop repeating gossip and idle conversation that are of no benefit to us.

6. We do what makes us happy, regardless of what others think.

7. We stop trying to prove how knowledgable we are and begin to understand that there is a lot to learn from others.

8. We learn to forgive ourselves quickly.

9. When choosing romantic partners, pleasant companionship becomes more important than passion.

10. We understand that all endings lead to new beginnings and begin to appreciate the cycle of life.

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5 Ways You Make Yourself Miserable

You're miserable and you're doing it to yourself. Don't believe me? Test your mentality against these 5 habits and see how you actually have control over your misery.

1. Demanding that life be exactly the way you want it to be.
We hope that life will be a fairy tale but it's really not. There are certain things about life that you can't control and you will have to accept that. Your life satisfaction is based around how well you react to the situations you can't control.

When things don't play out as you envisioned them, you have to know that it's not the end of the world. You have to understand that you are not the CEO of this planet and you can't force people to obey your every whim. It's okay if life turns out differently than what you expected, in fact, I guarantee that it will. Our fantasies are idealized and once achieved on even the smallest levels, the bliss associated with them loses its luster. Stop demanding that you have exactly what you want when you want it and you'll see a difference in your happiness level.

2. Expecting others to treat you the way you would treat them.
It makes perfect sense. YOU would never borrow a pair of jeans and not return them but when Janna does, it makes you think something is wrong with her. Why? Janna was born with a different set of ideals and morals than you were. It may have been common in her household to share clothing and trade other items.

When others treat you differently than the way you would treat them it isn't an indication of YOUR VALUE, it is an indication of how that person values the interaction and their view of the world. Nothing anyone does has anything to do with you. Everyone interacts in this world according to their perspective of it. People who are critical are critical of themselves and the world. People who are generous, want that kind of treatment in return. It's never about you, its about how the person feels in this world; their actions let you know.


3. Chasing the illusion of success.
Sure, you've been taught that you need to have a big house, a shiny car, awards on your wall and a cutie by your side but is that really what success is about. Why are you so hard on yourself because you don't have what others have? Who is judging you? You are really the only judge in your life.

We build and we build. We compete and we win. We grow and we want to everyone to remember our names, but it's not really necessary because their approval doesn't matter. We set these lofty goals for achievement to prove to ourselves and others that our lives meant something but no one taking a tally. Redefine success for yourself, it can be whatever you want it to be without causing you to feel bad everytime you turn on television or watch your friends walk by at the mall. It's an illusion that you do not have to buy into.

4. Believing that this life is a test for a more permanent existence.
This is not a test. No one is judging your performance with a score card. The next round is not the elimination round. This is your chance to experience bliss, love, peace and growth.

There is no need to feel that you will be condemned forever for mistakes you make or habits you develop as a result of living in this society. You choose your own fate by how you choose to view yourself and your role in this world. This is your life. Let your fears go, no one is watching.

5. Believing that romantic love is the greatest love of all.
I know. It's beautiful to watch in the movies. It's great to fantasize about. If it played out like most romantic comedies do, it would rank among the most satisfying experiences in life but, romantic love is not THE life experience to end all life experiences.

You have a 50/50 shot at finding a one true love. You can take the time to cry now if you want but the truth is, life doesn't begin with a romantic partnership. It's okay if that one person who understands you and loves you all the same happens to be your mother or your bestfriend. You can enjoy sex for the pleasure of it without it leading to a permanent relationship.

Nothing is permanent. If you have ever had the chance to look into the eyes of someone who really cares about you and would do anything to see you happy, you've experienced the highest point of romance already. You've done it. Linger in the bliss of that memory and check that goal off of your to-do list. There are other experiences to have that are equally as rewarding and thrilling. Go out and see.

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5 Reasons Trendy Women Aren't Cool

You see them everywhere you go. You may even admire them for being up on the latest of everything, from shoes to hairstyles to vacation spots. They know where the hot spots are and they know how to put an outfit together with no problem.

But there IS a problem. These trendy women are not role models for My Savvy Sisters. Here's why...

1. They are FOLLOWERS. They research and imitate what they see other people doing, wearing and going. Who wants to wear the latest styles if it means having someone else dictate what the latest styles are.

2. They won't take a risk. You ever wonder why the trendiest people seem to fall behind in social trends that matter? It's because they won't take a risk to create a trend, they're always waiting for someone else to pave the way and tell them what to do next so they'll feel safe.

3. They're stalkers. They are too busy watching others so they will know what to wear, where to go and how to think that they pay very little attention to their own personal growth.

4. They're broke. Do you know how much money has to be invested in the art of keeping up with trends? They should be more like My Savvy Sisters and invest that money into something that will give them financial freedom but they won't because to them, image is everything.

5. They're always late. By the time the trendy woman figures out what the latest trend is, the trend SETTERS are already making a new one. Think about how long it took people to shift to Facebook or how many trendy people you know who have moved to a certain city only AFTER everyone they know has moved there.

Seriously, you could continue comparing yourself to them or you can decide to celebrate your own uniqueness. It's okay NOT to be trendy, have the best outfits and be in the hot spots. Create your own hot spots that are unique to you and let your soul glow too!

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VIDEO: Be Fearless Like The Honey Badger

According to this video, the Honey Badger is the most fearless animal alive. It is willing to take bee stings, animal attacks and even a cobra bite just to satisfy its hunger.

What are you hungry for? Is fear of being stung holding you back? Learn how not giving a shit will get you where you want to be, just like the Honey Badger, cuz, the Honey Badger doesn't give a shit when it's going after its goal.

VIDEO BELOW:

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How To Be Sexy Without Trying

I am hard pressed to write this article because sexiness isn't usually developed. It's a trait that certain women possess while others spend their lives and fortunes trying to achieve it. But, for those who are seeking wisdom, I'm not against sharing a few tips to help you love yourself more.

1. Keep your vagina clean, neatly trimmed and healthy. Your vagina is supposed to smell like pussy so don't worry about getting rid of your natural body odor. If you get tested for STD's regularly, shower daily and trim your pubic hair you will feel unusually ready for an unexpected romp if you need one and if you don't need one, you'll still have this air about you that says, I have a pretty kitty- wanna see?

2. Wear clothes that fit your body. Instead of buying a SMALL shirt because you can't bear the thought of buying a medium because you think that means you are fat, buy the damn medium shirt. You are not supposed to look like a sausage when you get dressed. There is nothing sexy about looking like you are playing dress up in your child's clothing.

3. Fuck'em. Yes, I said it. FUCK EVERYBODY. No, I don't mean you have to have sex with everyone who wants to have sex with you. You have to have the attitude that no one's opinion matters more than yours if you want to succeed at being sexy. The women who are deemed sexy as hell aren't given that label because of how they dress or the way their breasts sit upright in their blouses, they are sexy because they KNOW they are sexy and they don't give a damn if no one on this earth agrees with them.

4. Smile for no reason. There's something strangely erotic about a woman who seems delighted for no reason. I'm not talking about walking around like an idiot with a huge grin on your face showing all 32 of your teeth to everyone who walks by. Your energy should express that you have a secret, a happy secret, that no one can find out because they aren't special enough.

If you want to learn how to be happy all day, everyday, you can watch this video and it will give you one of my tricks.



5. Enjoy sex when you can. Sex is not a sin. Sex is not bad. You will not go to hell for having sex. You are not a slut just because you like sex. You have to change your mentality about sex before you can ever be sexy. You don't have to actually have sex in order to be sexy but you must embrace the idea that at some point you may have sex and it is okay to enjoy it. You're okay. You'll be okay. You're not a bad person. You can like sex if you want to. You can like porn if you want to. Hell, you can be a prostitute if you want to. As long as you're doing what you WANT to do, there's nothing wrong with it.

Forget the notion that when you have sex you are 'giving it up'. You aren't "giving it up" you are getting something too. Hopefully it's an orgasm but if not, then at least its the warmth of a physical connection with someone you care for who makes your body tingle.

6. Stop looking for approval. You can approve yourself. You can decide you're awesome. You can decide that you're valuable. You can decide that you are worth your weight in diamonds. Once you make that decision you must begin to ACT the part and whatever that means to you is the right way to be. You won't even need to read another article like this because you will know exactly what to do.


So that's it.

A woman who:

• Has a neat and clean vagina
• Wears clothes that fit her body
• Smiles for no reason
• Doesn't need anyone to tell her she's sexy
• Doesn't believe sex is dirty
• Isn't looking for approval

Is a woman who many men and women will find irresistably sexy. Try these tips and keep it sexy, ladies!


For My Savvy Sisters: What makes you feel sexy?

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How To Fit In

It's not an easy task to find your place in this world. It's more common to look to those around you and try to imitate their lifestyles, hoping that using them as guides will bring you peace.

Taking this route may bring a sense of fulfillment for a while as you go down your bucket list, checking things off and feeling good about yourself. Hopefully, you won't have to compromise too much of who you are to live a life like this.

For other women, the mere thought of living out someone else's dream seems like a nightmare within itself. You may fumble and fight trying to figure out what to want and you find yourself time and time again, in situations that you know do not suit your personality or tastes. The people you surround yourself seem to be living in a dream world, happily playing roles assigned to them. You can't seem to get into your role and you wonder what's wrong with you. All you want to do is fit in somewhere, somehow.

You search and you search and you can't find that place. You dutifully earn your degrees. You get married. You have children. You vacation in Hawaii. You have long lunches with girlfriends who complain about their lives as though it is a competition to see who has it worst. You're sick of it. All you want is to find your place in this world- your real place.

How To Fit In

You must first understand that you won't fit into a "normal" life. If you were meant to do this, you would have already.

There is a place for you to fill. There is something special for you to do. There is someone out there who needs you, yet, you may not find that place immediately.

You don't fit in because you were not meant to. You are different and that carries its own weight. There are people who exist who are similar to you. They are waiting to meet you but they are on their own journey to accepting themselves "as is" as they learn that it is not important to conform to others expectations of who you should be.

This is your journey. Once it is completed, you will find yourself rising to meet an elite class of individuals who share similar ideals and understand your path, your present and where you are headed. You want more than what you see around you and you will have that.

First, you have to learn to appreciate your differences and celebrate them. By doing this you will begin your ascension.

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Dealing With Competitive Women At Work- Let Her Be The Queen

There is at least one of these women at every job. She just HAS to be number one. She reminds you of how many awards she's gotten. She criticizes you every chance she gets and often spreads rumors about your work ethic and personal life so that she can seem to be the most dedicated and the most favored. She's the first to volunteer for extra duty and is constantly walking behind the manager smiling while saying, "Yes Ma'am," hoping to stay on their good side.

You can't even make a suggestion without her trying to one up you. It was funny at first but now it's downright annoying.

How do you handle competitive women in the workplace?

Easy. You let them win.

Any woman who feels she has to compete with you is letting you know that she sees you as a threat. My Savvy Sisters know that there is no competition on the divine plane. What is yours is yours and no one can take it away.

We don't compete. We don't feel threatened. We merely step into our rightful places when the time arrives. We believe in our abilities and never view any other woman as someone who can take away our blessings.

Let the competitive woman at work win. If she is that dedicated to being #1 at a company that she does not own then that is her business. Let her exhaust her efforts in trying to remain on top while she throws dirt on others. Let her be the queen of the office and be okay with that. Your current job is not your final resting place. You will move on from there. You will do much more. She may remain inside those four walls, spinning her wheels, holding firm to her perceived status for the rest of her life. It is none of your concern.




Walk tall. Do your best and do not look to your manager or boss for your sense of self worth. Your self worth comes from knowing you are doing your very best. You are contributing what you have to offer and your poise and patience will be appreciated- when you get the hell out of there and start your own business. Remember, this is TEMPORARY.

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Is This Blog For You?

You might be new to My Savvy Sisters and you're clicking links and reading articles and you're not too sure if this is a place you want to visit again.

It's okay. We understand.

To help you decide we've made a bullet list of statements that describe the chief ideals we present and attitudes of the women who typically love our blog.

Sift through and see if you fit in.

This blog is for you if:

• You are working to spearhead a movement that will help enrich the lives of others.
• You want to learn how to achieve your dreams.
• You love your life and want to connect with other women who feel the same way.
• You are currently in a situation that is less than ideal and you want to learn how to move on from it.
• You don't have friends who believe in your dreams.
• You are an entrepreneur who wants to share your work with other women.
• You want to learn how to love yourself more and judge yourself less.
• You need help understanding and accepting yourself and your preferences.
• You need help figuring out your next step in life.
• You appreciate words of encouragement.
• You want to learn from women who have successfully achieved their goals.
• You are typically the outcast in social or work environments because of your lifestyle and opinions.
• You are seeking enlightenment.
• Your spiritual path plays a major role in your success.
• You are open to being exposed to new perspectives about life, love and business.
• You realize that you are capable of making the rules for your life.
  

This blog is NOT for you if:

• You want to hear the latest celebrity gossip.
• You are interested in fashion and beauty tips.
• Successful women make you angry.
• You believe you have all of life figured out.
• Your beliefs are so strong that you shun anyone who disagrees with them.
• You take pleasure in criticizing the lives of others.
• You need to know what happened on Housewives last night.
• You believe working for someone else your entire life makes you successful.
• You desperately need to get married.
• You never ask- Why?

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When You're A Bad Girl

Mind your manners
Cross your legs
Speak softly
Wear skirts with heels
Become an excellent cook
Find joy in cleaning
Become a nurse
Or a teacher
Nurse your babies
Look the other way when he strays
And you’ll master
Being…a lady

But…WHEN YOU’RE A BAD GIRL…these rules don’t make any sense. In fact, those who follow these rules seem crazy. Exactly what happens to the women who don’t follow the rules? Hmm…Let’s take a look shall we.

Angelina Jolie
Angelina Jolie gets enough flack from women who say she’s a home wrecker because her free spirited essence grabbed Brad Pitt’s attention and affection, which ultimately helped to create the life she always desired. And those same women who leave heated comments on websites and roll their eyes as her image flashes across the screen secretly desire to BE her and be WITH her. They want that same energy.

Madonna
The Material Girl led the way for a revolution for women everywhere even though she had no role model to emulate. She endured criticism and hatred for her uninhibited nature but she stood firm, never apologizing for being who she was. Today, up and coming artists seek to channel her spirit to capture a sliver of her individuality.

Tallulah Bankhead
One of the silent film eras greatest treasures, Tallulah Bankhead is most often known for her rambunctious personality and her ability to evoke emotion through her subtle gestures. Ms. Bankhead is also celebrated for being a woman who listens to her intuition, which led her overseas to England where she became one of the most successful stage actresses of her time. Hospitalized for a life threatening venereal disease, Ms. Bankhead would defy the social norms of the time by sleeping with any man that she wanted to and not being ashamed to talk about it.

Michelle Obama
Shhh.. Be quiet. Let your man lead. Child please! Michelle Obama wouldn’t hear it. She actually led her man to the White House and rose to the most honored position as First Lady. On the night that shook the entire world, the night that President Obama won the presidency, he and Michelle settled down to go to sleep and she turned to him and said,“You’re still taking the girls to school in the morning.”

Maya Angelou
What a wise and humble woman. What an example of grace and strength. Well, many don’t know that Ms. Angelou has been married so many times that she won’t even reveal the number because she says she doesn’t want to take away the honor of your ideals of marriage. She was also a prostitute and a pimp in her younger years, leading women to trade their booty for dollars. What makes Angelou’s life so amazing is the fact that she lived life to the fullest, chased her dreams, shared her talents and walked alongside the greatest leaders without a hand up or an advanced education. She tells her story so eloquently and no one alive would dare to criticize this self made giant of the literary world. That in itself, is inspires so many.

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My Success Is Not Accidental

I know I make it look easy.

Women admire me from all four corners of the world. I enjoy the best that life has to offer and I appear to do it with ease.

What you fail to see are the long nights I spent perfecting my craft, skipping the parties, boyfriends and gossip sessions in favor of studying to become the best at what I do.

I know I make it look easy and it is, but that comes after years of fumbling around, making mistakes and beating myself up for not getting it right. I couldn't allow myself to remain stagnant or to waste my talent by not chiseling at it with precision every second that I was awake.

I sculpted the very best version of me through years of trial and error and I continue to dedicate just as much time to remaining at the top of my game. Yet, you see me and you think she is cute and sweet and bubbly, when I'm a beast when it comes to my profession, yet my roar seems more like a hypnotizing purr.

My success is not accidental.

My ability to maintain my status in my own eyes, is what separates me from the women who compare themselves to me.

Flawlessly, instinctively I polish my skills without chipping a nail. I do all that and then I play with the best of them simply because I deserve to sit on this throne that I created.

I know I make it look easy, but even that takes effort, honey.

And I am well up to the challenge.

Are you?

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5 Things "Everyone" Does That You Should Never Do

My Savvy Sisters don't follow the crowd. In fact, we've noticed that if the majority of people are doing it, it is probably not a good thing to do. Let's make out of the box decisions to get out of the box results.

To get a head start on learning how NOT following the crowd will improve your life, here are 5 Things Everyone Does That You Should Never Do.

1. Falling in love for the sake of love

This isn't a Shakespearean play, and even then we all know what happened to the playwright's most infamous romantic couple; they died for love. My Savvy Sisters need to understand that romance in a relationship is secondary to the ability to work together as a team. It is the team effort of your relationship that matters more than the butterflies you feel when you see him. If you want to feel butterflies all the time, visit an amusement park and ride a roller coaster. If you want a healthy, long lasting relationship take stock of how he treats you when you need help and how well you coordinate getting errands done or planning trips. A relationship is a business deal, in fact it is the most important business deal you will ever make because if it happens to lead to marriage you will need an army of lawyers to get you out of it.

Don't fall in love for the sake of love. You'll end up in the homeless shelter, holding hands, smoking crack. If he can not help improve what you are already doing in life then he is not the one. If he can't help you grow, leave him alone. You are not supposed to take care of a man simply because you love him. You are confusing love with desperation. You don't have to be desperate. You can sleep with him and have him as a toy, but reserve your devotion and emotions for someone who can contribute to your success.

2. Playing the lottery

Our parents played the lottery in hopes of striking it rich and never having to work again. My Savvy Sisters don't have to do that since we are learning the importance of entrepreneurship and we are creating our own diverse stream of income. For My Savvy Sisters who missed the memo, playing the lottery is for people who lack the skills to grow their income in more creative ways.

It is a waste of money. You can use that money to invest in a class or online course so that you can learn a skill that will help you to earn a profit outside of a job.

3. Taking Psych Drugs

Just because some man in a white coat told you that you were bipolar doesn't mean that you have to become hooked on whatever prescription he decides to write for you. Wake up! Mental illness is a fantasy created by a group of people who sat in a room and decided what is normal and what is not. Just because your mental disposition does not fit into what others deem 'appropriate' does not mean that you are sick and in need of medicine.

Just because it is cool to mention drug habits like Prozac and Xanax doesn't mean you have to wave your flag and drink the kool-aid too. There is nothing cool about being dependent on an outside source for your peace of mind. Your peace of mind can be achieved without drugs. You can find a proper place for your personality without having to alter it chemically to fit in. If you are diligent, you can turn your difference into an asset for your life. Get off of the psych drugs and find others who are managing their anxiety and human emotional swings in a natural way. You don't need their quick fix. It's really only a numbing agent. There is a place in this world for the real you, you just have to find it.

4. Planning to retire from someone else's company

Sure, there are some women who dream of making it big in a corner office of some fancy corporation. This fantasy does not appeal to My Savvy Sisters. We won't devote our lives to making someone else wealthy because it doesn't make sense. We are the creators of the world's workforce, we don't stagnate in it.

5. Complaining to people who can't do anything about it

Most people call it venting when they share the frustration of their lives with others. Some do it out of desperation, hoping that if they talk about it enough someone will offer a solution. Others do it simply because it gives them the attention they crave to pain themselves as victims.

My Savvy Sisters aren't interested in being victims. We don't even mention our difficulties unless the person we are speaking to can resolve them. Anything outside of this tactic is actually called BRAGGING. When you complain to someone who can't do anything about your problem you are actually bragging about the problem. My Savvy Sisters have better things to brag about. We brag about our awesome families, our blossoming careers and our beautiful smiles, we don't use petty drama to entertain others.

For My Savvy Sisters: What are some other things that most people do, that you never do?

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