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Thursday, December 29, 2011

5 Things My Savvy Sisters Are NOT Doing in 2012


We don't need to make resolutions because we tackle our goals one by one. Instead of focusing on the things we want to change we'll go ahead and take stock of the things we WON'T do in the new year.

My Savvy Sisters Will Not

1. Focus on the details of other people's lives. When we stress out over whether Mary's husband is paying her enough attention or why Jennifer's daughter is running with the wrong crowd, we add uneccessary stress to our lives. Let them worry about themselves. If it doesn't directly impact us, we are going to smile and let it take care of itself.

2. Condemn ourselves for past mistakes. Every action we took that we thought was a mistake eventually led us to another action that made us smile, laugh or prosper therefore there are no mistakes. We can overcome anything. We become wiser. We won't punish ourselves this year because we weren't perfect. We aren't perfect. We don't want to be. Imperfection is the new black.

3. Play the victim. Whatever happens in our lives is a direct reflection of what is supposed to happen and even the losses will benefit us if we stop being emotional and really SEE what we are being directed toward. No more 'woe is me' stories as we introduce ourselves to new people. No more looking for ways to elicit pity so that we can manipulate the people around us. Yes, people will help us, but no one truly respects a woman who plays the victim time and time again. Own your mistakes. Be willing to lose because of them. Stand up and recognize your role and your options in the situations. Sometimes, letting go is the best thing to do.

4. Forget that our friends are important. Sure, most of us dream about a wedding ring and the glorious day we get to be the princess, but for the MAJORITY of our lives we are human beings having a great experience surrounded by people who may not be able to have sex with us or marry us but they do care. This year, we'll choose to focus on those relationships that have stood the test of time and have shaped us for the better, yes even without an orgasm.

5. Allow this year to float by without taking a risk. We have to stop being afraid to lose. We will be willing to make a decision this year that may cause us to lose BIG TIME. We may tell our special someone how we feel about them and risk chasing them away, or we may ask for that promotion we have been craving at work. We may also decide to finally take that big opportunity overseas and risk not having a job or an apartment to come home to. Whatever comes our way this year that seems too BIG to recover from, we will walk head on into it and stop being afraid to take the risk.

The Rebuild Your Life Project Partners With Denny's For Hiring Event

On December 21, 2011, more than 100 unemployed South Floridians were given on the spot interviews during The Rebuild Your Life Project's partnership with Denny's Restaurants.

More than 14 corporate owned restaurants in Miami-Dade and Broward counties participated in the hiring event that was held in two different locations, one in Hialeah-Miami Lakes and the other in Hollywood.

Here is a video recap of the event as told by the creator of The Rebuild Your Life Project, Te-Erika Patterson.



Poll Results: Which Is Your Biggest Fear?


MySavvySisters.Com posted a poll that asked its readers to answer the question: Which is your biggest fear?

Of the women who responded:

23% answered - Being viewed as a failure
23% answered - The death of a loved one
15% answered - Death
15% answered - Never Being Loved
15% answered - Becoming homeless
1% answered- Going to hell


Analysis- What does this poll say about what threatens My Savvy Sisters?

My Savvy Sisters aren't afraid of going to hell. Maybe that's because we have more to do than sit around and think about what is going to happen in an after life that we do not even know exists.

My Savvy Sisters recognize their inner potential and are having a difficult time grasping the concept that somehow they may not realize it. What my sisters don't understand is, the only thing that will hold you back from realizing your full potential is your fear of not being able to do it.

This is why I went through with The Rebuild Your Life Project. I wanted to show you that no matter what happens, you can rebuild. It doesn't matter how much you lose, you can dust yourself off and try again.

Moreover, it seems that not only are My Savvy Sisters afraid of not meeting their full potential but they are also afraid of others recognizing it and judging them for it. This is all too common in women who make goals simply to appease others.

You don't have to live like this, sis. Your goals should be for your own benefit and your own pleasure. Whether or not you achieve is not a basis to determine your life worth. Have fun trying and failing your way through life. Give it your best shot and be surprised when you win because being a superwoman was really your goal in the first place. Your desire is to do the impossible, or at least try anyway and laugh while you're trying it because it really IS fun to try.

I am astonished to report that My Savvy Sisters fear death just as much as they fear never being loved and becoming homeless. This means never being loved would be the same fate as dieing or being an outcast in society. I can understand that rationale but it doesn't have to be so.

We place far too much emphasis on romantic love in this society. I'm sure it's wonderful and it's a life expectancy but really it is not a necessity. We can not continue to measure our life worth by our ability to partner with someone and remain in a relationship with them. No relationship is permanent. No relationship is stable. Everything changes eventually and when we allow ourselves the freedom to change and grow and even to leave if the relationship does not suit our growth, it is only THEN that we are truly living out our potential.

We think we do not have love because we have never been married or we have yet to feel that tingly soul mate feeling but the reality is, we do experience love each and every day in so many forms it would be an insult not to recognize them. But we don't care. We are so busy trying to live out someone else's expectation for our lives that we forget to be happy. But we don't have to continue to live like that.

If for some reason, you don't experience romantic love in this decade, be okay with that. What other experiences can you have? Try to have as many as you can and write about them, savoring them for as long as you can.

Comparing the fear of death to the fear of never being loved is amazing to me. With death, we fear it because we do not know what will happen next. Not experiencing romantic love is different. We KNOW that we can hop from one adventure to the next if we choose to, collecting souvenirs, awards and even lovers along the way. Who says the ultimate love experience has to have a ring attached to it? It doesn't. Have a good time. Listen to your bliss and dive into it.

For My Savvy Sisters: What do you think of these poll results? What were some of your fears from earlier in your life and how did you overcome them?

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Hillary Clinton Is The Most Admired Woman of 2011

In a Gallup Poll that ran in USA Today from December 15-18 of 2011, readers were asked to name the woman they admired most in the world.

The top 3 women were:


Hillary Clinton
We admire Hillary for her obvious strength in character her ability to lead BESIDE her husband, former President Bill Clinton and her resolve to stand amongst the big boys and make her presence known. Hillary is that familiar face that puts us at ease. Much like her husband Bill, women feel like we have a friend in Hillary Clinton.




Oprah Winfrey
Oprah Winfrey is the epitome of every woman's biggest dream come true. She embodies every element of womanhood that we are fascinated by and struggle with. She has allowed the entire world to grow with her in her career and her spiritual ascension. We love Oprah because she is imperfect like we are, yet she still manages to come out on top.



First Lady Michelle Obama
The First Lady Of the United States is American royalty at its best. Poised, confident and charming, she is the type of woman that can lead a country all by herself and train a team of men to do the same. We admire the first lady because she is the beautiful matriarch of our country and we all know that is the secret behind President Obama's success.

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