Create Your Own Adventure

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How To Find Answers To All of Life's Questions

Do you want wisdom? There are 3 ways to find it.

Review: Vicky Christina Barcelona (2008)

Vicky Christina Barcelona weaves a tale of transformation of two besties who visit Barcelona for the summer unaware that the trip will challenge their current belief systems.

Survival Series: How To Survive A First Date

If you're ready to begin dating again, you'll need to know these mental strategies to make the most of it.

Where Is My Success?

Have you been toiling away for years and don't see any rewards?

Monday, December 10, 2012

SUCCESS: The Issa Rae Way

By Te-Erika Patterson

Success for Issa Rae the creator of the web based series Awkward Black Girl, didn't happen as a stroke of luck. She has now partnered with famed Scandal creator Shonda Rhimes to present a new series, I Hate LA Dudes on ABC.

What led to Issa Rae's success? The answer is simple- she did the work.

Now living in LA and running The Artists Might, my indie artist resource blog, I have come across so many artists who are looking for their big break. They go to bed at night praying that someone will notice their good looks and talent. They sigh in frustration as the partnership they hoped for falls through. They are missing the one thing that sets them apart from those who make it and those who do.

In order to be a success in anything you must BE the success that you see. Begin right now.

If you want to be a teacher go and teach.
If you say you are a television writer, write a script and produce it.

You can not wait for someone to believe in you when you have nothing for them to believe in. CREATE YOUR OWN opportunity by DOING the thing that you believe you are gifted to do RIGHT NOW. Don't wait to get paid. Don't wait for the fancy equipment. Look around you and transform the tools you have into the tools you need to create the life you want.

This is how Issa Rae created her success. She didn't sit around feeling sad about her life, wishing for a chance; she did the work. She created Awkward Black Girl and had something to hold up for the world to see.

CREATE YOUR OWN OPPORTUNITY by doing what you love right now with what you have. Do it and keep doing it, improving along the way. The rest will fall into place.


Saturday, December 8, 2012

5 Traits of Highly Successful Women

I have interviewed some of the best and brightest women for MySavvySisters.Com. Most of them are thought leaders, entrepreneurs and highly successful women. As I reflect back on the core principles of their characters, I have noticed a few common themes that may be useful to you as you assess your personality.

A Highly Successful Woman

1. Does not have friends
Sure, there may be ONE person this woman trusts without reservation but walking down the street arm in arm with a group of women is not on this woman's agenda at all. She doesn't hate other women, she merely finds that the cattiness, jealousy and petty behavior is beneath her.

2. Is not competitive
She is in a class all of her own and she knows this. She doesn't believe that any woman can do what she does better than she does it so she sees no woman as a threat to her in business, romantic relationships or social situations.

3. Offers a service/product that helps others
The main ingredient to this woman's success is her ability to be a resource to others. She uses her feminine powers to offer her intelligence and wisdom to help others succeed.

4.  Expects to win
The most highly successful woman believes she will win at the game of life. She expects to meet her goals and sees obstacles as challenges to get what she wants. Not meeting her goal is a scenario that does not enter into her mind. She knows her vision is attainable and the challenge of meeting it is a mental exercise.

5. Is not caught up on romantic relationships
She believes a life partner is an accessory to her life goals but it is not her main focus. She is often single because she knows she can live her life alone and be perfectly happy. She may get married but her husband is not her driving force or her lifeline. He is simply someone to share her life with and if her relationship does not work out, her world does not crumble around her.

Arizona Teens Punished By Holding Hands

Two students who were caught fighting in an East Valley highschool were asked to choose their punishment. They could be suspended for 9 days each or sit together holding hands throughout the entire day in front of their peers. The two boys chose to hold hands.

This method of punishment is drawing criticism from news watchers across America as the snapshot of the two has become an internet sensation. The teens, who were ridiculed for the entire day, have not made any claims of harassment or bullying yet many believe this punishment is a direct attack on gays.

What do you think? Was their punishment the best way to handle the situation?

Thursday, December 6, 2012

The Model's Uniform & Why It Works


Fashion is fleeting. It reflects the ideas of the marketing strategies of the era. Whatever the clothing manufacturers want to sell more of, they push into fashion magazines, drape across celebrities and flaunt in fashion shows to convince you that this particular style will make you one of the beautiful people.

It won't; but it sure does boost your confidence in a sick twisted way. It's amazing that off the runway, you won't see models and celebrities strolling casually in the strange combinations created by the fashionably elite. The truly beautiful don't bother to accessorize much because they get enough attention as it is.

The model's uniform is made up of 3 pieces.

1) The T-shirt - This is usually a plain white shirt and can have various sleeve lengths.
2) Jeans- These are worn in a variety of styles, lengths and condition.
3) Heels- Any color, any style, any height.

When the model combines these 3 simple pieces with a simple bracelet, sunglasses and a pair of earrings, she is already ready for the paparrazi.

Why This Works


The real secret to beauty isn't the fancy hairstyles or expensive bags. The real secret to beauty is the confidence behind the clothes. Models already KNOW that they are beautiful so they don't need to TRY to keep up with the latest trends. Knowing you are beautiful is your little secret that shines from every pore.

A true test of real beauty is to wear the Model's Uniform everyday and not care what anyone thinks or says about you. Ditch the designer duds and expensive hairstyles that take attention away from your face and hide your shine. Dare to be simple and neat and beautiful without all the extra fuss.

You ARE beautiful and you don't need to mimic the fashion magazines to prove it.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

WARNING: PMS Now Being Treated By Pretty Prozac Pills


The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is the guidebook for diagnosing mental disorders. The fifth edition of the list of symptoms that allow doctors to label patients as mentally ill is now updated and will be released this month. According to the PMS Comfort Blog, the DSM V may allow symptoms associated with PMS to be included in the main section as an official mental disorder called Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder.

Since the beginning of time, women have dealt with the many emotional surges associated with their menstrual cycles and now doctors have created a remedy that they call SaraFem. SaraFem is a drug that can be issued to women who experience the normal symptoms of a woman's body cycle. The scary part is, according to the Katherine McCormick, the CEO of Australia based Utopia Research Institute, SaraFem is another form of the anti-anxiety drug Prozac, repackaged to appeal to women, a move Katherine calls "crazy" in itself.

Do not fall for this. You are a woman, you are supposed to experience the emotions of life. You are not mentally ill because you have the proper reproductive organs to reproduce. Do not accept this diagnosis which can not be measured in any scientific way and therefore can be handed out at the psychologist's whim in an effort to quell any complaints. Your symptoms will appear to disappear after taking this drug but that will be because you will be too high on the drug to experience them.

My Savvy Sisters don't take drugs to manage our emotions. We live them. We accept them. We handle our issues internally. ~Te-Erika Patterson

Friday, November 30, 2012

3 Ways to Get What You Want For Xmas

It's the holiday season and we all want to feel appreciated and cared for by being given nice gifts. The truth is, men aren't mind readers and sometimes they need that extra push to get them to do the things we really want them to do, and that's okay.

Today I will teach you how to get exactly what you want for Xmas by using your wit and feminine-wise.


Ask For What You Want
Although we'd love it if we had men who would 'get' us and understand our needs and wants, it's unrealistic to believe that they are wired to be that way. Men don't think the way we do so the most clear cut way to get what we feel we deserve is to simply ask for it.

Sit your man down, look him in the eye and say, "I want a new refrigerator/handbag/vacation." Wait for him to acknowledge what you said and then don't mention it again. Never beg. If he is a good man he has heard you and will do his best to appease you.

Bait & Switch
Sometimes the things we want are a bit pricey and you know your man better than I do so you know if he'll go for the expensive gifts or if he is a bit on the frugal side. To side step this issue you need to do the bait & switch. Say you want a new frame for your wedding photo and it costs $150, find another frame that is considerably more expensive and show them both to him, highlighting the more expensive one first.

Say, "We need a new frame for our wedding photo and I really want this one but it's $350." When he raises his eyebrow at the price casually show him the lesser priced frame and say unenthusiastically, "I guess we can settle for this one, it's not as nice as the other one, but I think it will work." He will probably feel relieved at this point. You can do your happy dance in the kitchen when he's not looking.

Oral Pleasure
Under no circumstances are you to dole out oral pleasure unless your man is being a good boy. Do everything BUT that, because that treat is reserved for special favors and rewards for good behavior.

During your late night love making session, take a break between orgasms to cuddle with him and tell him how much you love him. Just as he is about to doze off, wake him back up with this special treat and then in the midst of the process, stop, look up at him and then ask for what you want. He'll be too far gone to say anything but yes and you can hold him to his word the next day by showing him where to buy it and how much it will cost.

If for some reason none of these techniques don't work that means you have a lazy man who doesn't care to make you happy. If this is the case, buy what you want for yourself with his money.

Happy Holidays!

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Powerball Winner? Money To Blow? Try These Lavish Treats

Unprepared for what may happen if you win the lottery tomorrow?

All across the country hopeful gamblers have their fingers crossed as the Powerball lottery has announced the jackpot has reached more than $500 million. For most people, earning that type of money has never even been a distant wish so they wouldn't know what to do with it or how to maintain. Studies show that those who are unprepared for a sudden windfall of money squander it within a few years.

But hey- nothing lasts forever anyway. If your imagination didn't warn you to educate yourself to maintain and grow wealth you have my permission to blow it. You can always go back to working for others later and you'll have one hell of a story to tell.

BornRich.Com boasts the most ridiculously expensive toys the world has for sell. If you're making it rain after your lottery win without a care of investing in your future try these one-in-a-million treats.

 $1 Million Dollar Bra
Crafted with no fabric, this 18 carat gold bra has 500 carats of diamonds.


 $300,000 IPhone Case
This 18 carat rose gold case is adorned with both pink and white diamonds.

 $10 Million Dollar Private Fiji Island
600 acres, 5 beaches, 360-degree views across the South Pacific Ocean.

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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

The Number 1 Reason You Are Unhappy

Life is hard at times. There are decisions that have to be made that affect your life and the lives of others. There is drama at work, family feuds and sometimes we wake up in the morning and our jeans just won't fit. Whether the trials of life seem large or small, a few consecutive days being confronted by these issues will add up and lead to a personal great depression that is bigger than any this country has ever seen.

The truth is, and this is a big pill to swallow, the reason you are unhappy is because, you want to be.

This may seem foolish as you say to yourself, "I am not a masochist. I don't like pain." But to be honest, any emotion that you experience for more than 60 seconds is a choice. Whichever emotion you are experiencing right now is a result of placing your attention on thoughts that fuel that particular emotion.

You're focused on your losses. You're focused on the negative events you've seen on the news. You're focused on the horrible things people have said to you in the past. You're wondering why you have yet to reach the place in life where you feel you deserve to be.

Life is supposed to be like THIS, you say. But the reality is, it doesn't.

There was no contract that you signed upon your arrival on earth that stated that you will experience certain events at certain times and there would never be times of uncertainty. No one could ever script your life in this way because if they did, it wouldn't be life, it would be a movie. Life is not a movie. Circumstances don't arise, hit a crescendo and work themselves out within an 130 minute period.

It's okay if it takes you more than 4 years to finish college. It's perfectly fine if your first real relationship falls apart. It's not abnormal to realize that your life hasn't been mapped out by the age of 30. It's okay not to know what will happen next.

You are unhappy because you want to control every circumstance of your life. You are unhappy because you keep thinking about those circumstances you can't control and you have decided that since you can't control those situations then life is bad.

You are the authority who decides what is good or bad. When you decide that life not meeting your expectations is a bad thing you are choosing to be unhappy. You can easily decide that everything is a good thing. It seems silly but it will bring a great deal of relief and wonder to your life as you encounter those surprise twists and turns.

It's okay. You can start over from here. Shrug your shoulder at the uncertainties that you encounter and ask yourself, "I wonder what good this will bring."

Monday, November 26, 2012

How Wage Workers Will Survive The Side Effects of ObamaCare

By Te-Erika Patterson

The scope of American health care will change completely once President Obama's Affordable Care Act is implemented. The premise of the new law will require employers to provide health insurance for their full-time employees.

Workers who have previously been unable to afford healthcare are applauding this effort while on the opposite end of the spectrum, businesses and corporations struggling to regain their composure in the wake of this country's recession are seeking creative ways to offset the costs of this new initiative.

According to FoxNews.Com, Florida restaurateur John Metz, who owns and operates more than 40 restaurants across 3 states, is planning to reduce the hours of his employees while adding a 5% surcharge to the bills of the customers who frequent his restaurant.

Although the Affordable Care Act will impact a variety of businesses, those in the customer service industry will feel its effects most notably. For workers who depend on hourly wages, this may force them to seek additional employment causing them to spend less time at home with their families adding to the stress of those living at or just above the level of poverty.

What can we do to prepare for these changes?

We, the workers of the service industry who have become dependent on trading the hours of our day for wages must not be caught off guard by this transition. To prepare for this change I suggest that we:

  • Minimize our lifestyles by learning to live on less income right now.
  • Cut back on expenses, beginning with entertainment. Ex: Instead of spending money on alcohol at bars, buy a bottle and relax at home.
  • Trade unhealthy habits like smoking and drug use for self care like exercise and sports, which in turn may allow for additional income once mastered by participating in competitions or teaching courses to others.
  • Develop a skill that allows a stream of income outside of working for wages. Ex: Cutting hair, babysitting, lawn care, recycling.
  • Learn to view wage work as supplemental income instead of primary income by becoming entrepreneurs.
We live in a world where self preservation is not only an instinct, it is key. Corporations will strategize to protect their best interests and so should you. Developing the mentality to move away from government assistance and dependence is the key factor in surviving during these new transitions.

Thursday, November 8, 2012

‘Salary’ Tops Poll of What US Women Want to Change Most About Their Partner


Curious to see if women would try and change their partner in some way, if given the chance, one of the leading coupon code websites in the US has conducted a survey to discover what personality traits in their partner, if any, and other things they would most like to change.

CouponCodes4u.com surveyed 2,073 American women to discover their thoughts on the matter. The survey, formed part of research into relationships and whether women would be happier to change their partner than men.

All respondents that took part in the study were in a relationship and had been with their partner for at least 6 months. All respondents were asked whether or not there were things about their partner that they wanted to change in any way, to which 65% admitted that there were. Just 18% said they wouldn’t want to change their partner in any way, while the remaining respondents were unsure. Respondents who admitted they would like to change something about their partner were then asked to list the attributes that they would change immediately, given the chance, and could select all that applied from a list of possible answers.

The top ten attributes that women would most like to change about their partner if given the chance were as follows:

1) Salary 71%
2) Attitude 69%
3) Cleanliness 54%
4) Physical appearance 46%
5) Manners 43%
6) Skills in bed 38%
7) Friends 35%
8) Family 31%
9) Fashion sense 28%
10) Hobbies 25%

Furthermore, when asked if they had ever almost broken up with their current partner over what they deemed to be “flaws”, 45% of respondents said that they had. When asked if they’d attempted to change anything about their partner in the past, 36% said that they had, with ‘fashion sense’ being the top trait that they’d attempted to change.

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Make some noise! VOTE!



 by Kitty K. Free

The election is near. No matter which side you're on, you need to make some noise and vote. If you're one of the fortunate Americans eligible to vote, DO IT!

If you complain like I complain, and you're a citizen who is able to vote, those complaints are invalid if you don't go to the polls. If you're not registered, in most states, you have 30 days before the election to do so. The election is November 6th, so you need to register NOW! Go to the US Election Assistance Commission or Rock the Vote, to find out about registration for your state.

Already registered, but need to verify your status, or your voting location? Go here to confirm your voting information. And PLEASE vote for the legislative branch. Voter turn out is always less for Congress (see stats from the US Census Bureau's "Voting Hot Report"). Voting for your senators and representatives is just as important as voting for the president. Our government is intentionally set up so that the president doesn't have absolute power. Without a Congress that's willing to work with the president, as well as call BS when they see it (which ever side your on), it simply can't work. Part of that checks and balances is us, the citizens. If we don't contact our congress, and take them to task for their actions, then they will keep acting without favor to our needs and goals.

I heard a congressman say that if 25 people call his office about the same issue, he takes notice. We complain about lobbyist, but we are the most important lobbyist of all, because without votes, they can't keep their job. They are fully aware of that. But they are also aware of many American's general ignorance about the way our government works, and they bank on that.

If it was up to me, the Constitution, and political science, would be as mandatory as math in school. Government would be taught from the 1st straight through the 12th grade. Foreigners getting their citizenship know more about our government than many Americans. Worried about letting Congress or the government know who you are? Don't worry; they already know. So make your voice known to them. Email them, call them, write them. Be friends on Facebook with them. Tweet them. I think about the fact that It's been during my lifetime that black Americans have had the right to vote. People died so I could vote. So even in situations where I don't like either guy, I still vote. It would be completely disrespectful to the people before me, and irresponsible as an eligible American, for me not to. People in other countries are dying so they can have their voices heard. We have that right, and too many of us take it for granted. So please, vote! In every election!

Friday, October 19, 2012

How Friends Can Revive Your Spirit


By Teresa Lopez

There are so many things in the world today that damage our spirits and dampen our enthusiasm for life. The evening news is filled with reports of crime and scandal, our jobs often frustrate us, and even family can be very demanding. In the midst of all this difficulty, having friends can be a life-saver. There are things only friends can do to revive your spirit, encourage you, and set you on the right path.

Here are several things that friends do to help you flourish.

• Your Friends Love You for Who You Are, not What You Do.
This is the key characteristic of any true friendship, and it does wonders to heal your soul. After a tough day at work, your friend can remind you that it’s not about what you do – you are worthwhile because of who you are. This will help you take on the next day with renewed confidence.

 • They Bring Out the Best in You.
Great friends make you want to be your best and do your best. When you are feeling discouraged and beat down, meeting a friend for coffee can be just the encouragement you need to get back up and get in the game again.

• Friends Give You A Shoulder to Cry on.
Sometimes you just need to vent, or cry, after a really difficult time. Good friends are ready to be there for you, listening, consoling, and helping you release your feelings so you can move on in healthy ways. Whether it’s a tough break-up or a jerk of a boss, your girlfriends are there for you.

 • Friends are Good for Your Health.
Studies have shown that people with strong social networks are less likely to get sick and even sleep better. Knowing you have friends on your side will keep you healthier and allow you to rest easy at night. Keep in close contact with your best friends, and you may even live longer, according to a 2010 study!

 • Good Friends Relieve Stress and Help You Cope.
When you are going through a truly difficult time, having your good girlfriends to lean on can be a real lifesaver. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, illness of a child, or unexpected loss of a job, your friends can help relieve stress and help you cope with your situation. Don’t be afraid to ask for help - good friends may bring food, clean your house, or do other chores you normally do yourself. But if you don’t ask, they won’t know how to help. The best thing about good friendships is that not only do your friends help you, you help them in all of these ways also.

Friendships are an amazing way to revive your spirit, regain confidence, and make it through life’s tough events. This post was written on behalf of Psychic Source. For an online reading from the best psychics, visit their site today!

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

How To Create A Positive Outcome

By Evelyn Robinson

We often sit around and fantasize about our perfect life. Most of us have the same goals, to be wealthy, successful or to find love. Whatever you imagine, we are all guilty of the same thing, sitting around and daydreaming instead of taking action. How can we break this cycle? How do we get out there and start finding the life we want?

Act the part 
There are many studies that back this up. They show that if you go out there and act like the kind of person you want to be, then you can become that person. OK, so it doesn't mean that going out and pretending to be a millionaire will instantly make you rich, but that certain physical actions can affect your mind and help you to reach your goals. For example, smiling, even if you don't feel like it, can make you happier. It also shows that adopting a power pose can make you more confident, useful when you're in situations like job interviews and feel kind of overwhelmed! Why not use this in everyday life? Next time you go out, walk tall and be proud. Act positively towards people and see how they respond to you. You'll often find that keeping a good attitude, even when you're angry, will get you a lot further in life.

Look into the future 
Visualizing your future is important, and can help you to achieve your goals. Psychologists from the University of New York found that people who thought of their goal happening as likely, did better in a range of situations than those who just fantasized about something happening. How can you apply this to your life? Well, if for example you're looking for a certain job, it's better to start thinking 'I AM going to get this job' than 'I would love to get this job'. Yes, there may be disappointments along the way, but you will overcome them. Moving on and constantly finding different goals can really help.

What can I do with my life? 
An important part of this is to set goals that are realistic. Not many of us can join the incredibly rich, but we have the potential to get a good job that we enjoy and can keep us comfortable. Some people like to keep a 'bucket list' of their goals, a list of things to do before they die, but how do you even go about deciding what to add? Psychologists have found that it's better to choose things that also affect those around you, so try to think of some goals that include the people you love. If you want to achieve something very specific, it's sometimes helpful to ask yourself why you want to do it. Do you want your dream job because it'll impress others or because it's something you really want to do? Do you want to visit a certain country because you love it, or do you just want to show off about your expensive vacation? Remember that your goals are to keep you happy, so don't just make them about money or owning things.

Take care of the mental and physical 
Of course, if you have a more serious issue with negative thoughts, you could be suffering from depression. There are many ways to overcome this from licensed prescriptions to therapy, but it's important not to suffer in silence. For many people, even short-term treatment can get them back on track and help them to think more positively. Your health in general often affects your mental state, so staying healthy in all regards can help your behavior patterns. Eating healthy, seeing a doctor when you are sick and getting plenty of sleep are all simple things, but they are very important to your mental health and helping you achieve your goals. Sometimes we have to take care of the basics before we can move onto the big things, so make a plan to feel healthier and stick to it. Whether it's having some alone time, seeing friends or going for a walk, whatever you feel is best for you.

Do it today 
There is no better time to start these goals than right now. Are you reading this article because you are putting something off? Go and do it, and make sure there's a smile on your face as you do! We don't all achieve our dream lives, but with a great attitude a happy life is something achievable for everyone.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

How To Prove Your Worth In One Step

If anyone ever asks you to prove your worth, just do this.


You don't ever, ever, EVER, EVER have to prove your worth to anyone. You are valuable because you say so. Your work and life speaks for itself. Walk the hell away and let them find someone else to bully.

3 Ways To Recognize Your Free Spirit

You are already free but for some reason you don't know it. Shake off the shackles and recognize just how free and easy your life really is.


1. You don't have to ask anyone for anything.

You work for what you have and you don't need to beg, borrow, steal or manipulate anyone to get what you want. If you want it, you buy it. If it pleases you, you do it. You don't need anyone's permission to live, love or treat yourself- and that, my sister, is priceless.

2. You enjoy your own company the most.

You don't need a crowd to have fun. You don't require a consensus to enjoy a night out. All you need is your ID, 20 bucks and your GPS. The rest of the night you are the star in creating your own adventure.

3. You know everything's okay.

There is no such thing as bad news. All roads lead to a new adventure and you love it. Whether you get what you want or not or whether you win or lose, you understand that you are the authority who decides what should be labeled good or bad. You can make the best out of any situation and look good while doing it. You don't demand that life follows your prescribed path and you are happier everyday because of it.


Tuesday, October 2, 2012

How To Raise Your Standards For Life

We all have a set of expectations for our lives which include the way we allow others to interact with us, the kind of jobs we pursue and the relationships we have in our lives. If for any reason, you find yourself wanting more, it's okay to raise your standards, in fact, it is imperative.

Raising your standards for your life is a risk that many will not undertake simply because it requires effort and many of the people, places and things you were used to will have to be removed. Similar to a life change like a relocation, upgrading your life in any area will cause you to feel scared and uneasy because until you actually achieve the upgrade you will wonder if it is even possible for you.

It is.

You can have it.

You can have the better job with better pay.
You can have the man who adores you and never disrespects you.
You can have the friends who uplift you.
You can have the healthy body.

The strongest drawback to raising your standards for your life is the fact that when you make the decision to raise your standards, your whole world will seem to be against your decision.

When you decide that you no longer want to work a wage job, you will find that sharing this news with your wage-job working friends will cause unrest because they won't understand or accept your decision. They may berate you, belittle you or even try to sabotage your efforts. For some reason when others see that you want more for your life and they believe they can't have it, they will try to prove to you (sometimes unknowingly) that you can not have it either.

Raising your standards will take great effort on your part because you will have to be strong enough to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. You have to be willing to lose everything you have to gain what you believe you want when there is no guarantee that you will ever be able to have it.

The key is to live your life as though your standard has already been met, accept no substitutions and be willing to let go of anything that does not meet your new qualifications.

Yes, they will laugh at you and tell you that you think you are better than they are. Yes, it will hurt as the world you know comes crashing down and you enter into new territory. No, it won't feel good to have to say goodbye to family, fake friends and familiar complacency. It's going to be tough but until you set a new standard, you won't move forward in life.

Say goodbye to your old life. Raise the bar for your expectations and what you will accept in love, career and social interactions. Stick with it. Fight for it. Be willing to be alone if you can't have the relationship you want. Be willing to downgrade your lifestyle if you can't have the job you really want right away. Be willing to go out to dinner alone if you can't surround yourself with the type of people who reflect what you really want from life.

It takes sacrifice and it hurts to be the odd woman out but in the end, your life will shift and all of those people who would not support the shift will be a distant memory.

You can do this.

Set a new standard.

Stick to it.

Receive it.

The Unforgiveable Sin: Dating A Broke Man

We're not teenagers anymore. We don't fall in love based on how cute he is or what promises he makes. We don't fall in love with his potential or how cute the kids might look. We don't fantasize about a lifestyle that a man has yet to prove he can provide.

This is not about finding a man to take care of you; you are one of My Savvy Sisters, you can easily feed and pamper yourself. You've worked hard to be able to establish yourself, at least keep company with men who have done the same so you can share secrets to success and support each other in your growth. You shouldn't be the only person offering resources and wisdom. Please don't be bamboozled into caring for a grown up child. If you have children, you don't need another one to take care of just for the sake of companionship.

You must never date a man who has not proven that he can care for himself. That is not respectable and it is truly disgusting. You're worth more than that. Some women have no problem going dutch on dates, but you should. If he can't provide a simple meal for the woman who is sharing her mental and physical time with him then he has a lot of work to do on himself in the areas of etiquette, personal pride and self care and he should not be focused on a relationship. If you truly care for him, tell him to work on himself and give him the space to do that without having to lead the way.

At no point should you:

  1. Believe the sad sob stories of his childhood which he uses as an excuse for why he is unable to provide for himself.
  2. Believe that if you are the one person who supports him then he will eventually get himself together. You are not his savior. Stop trying to be.
  3. Equate sexual pleasure with love. In fact, you shouldn't even be sleeping with a broke man at all. He doesn't deserve the cookie if he can't feed you. He doesn't deserve to touch you if he can't teach you how to prosper.

Raise your standards and learn how to masturbate. Have fun with men, flirt, laugh, accept invitations to go out but never, EVER try to save them. They'll respect you more for giving them the space to learn on their own and if they don't, there are plenty of desperate women out there who would love to take care of them. It won't be you.

7 Ways To Relieve Stress Without Lifting A Finger

We experience stress when we feel that we are faced with situations that we can not control. Whether you are stressed about the actions of others or situations that seem like they are too much for you to handle, there are ways to relieve the pressure of ALL stress from your life.

Try these 7 Tips for mental stress relief. Consider them promises for your life. 

1. Relax. Life doesn't have to be obedient to your demands. In fact, it won't, and that's okay.
2. Let your children (and friends) live their lives the way they want to. You can't control them or save them and you shouldn't try to because it robs them of their chance to learn and grow.
3. When you don't get what you want, understand that it's truly the best thing that ever happened to you.
4. Your body is your greatest gift. It provides transportation for your spirit and allows you to experience the pleasures of life. You aren't a teenager anymore and you don't have to look like one to feel beautiful. Fall in love with your curves.
5. What you need to continue on your path is already on its way to you. It's coming.
6. Your relationship status does not define you. You define yourself. You make the rules. You are loved. You ARE love. Recognize the love that is already around you and passionately return it.
7. However you want life to be, don't wait, simply DO it. Live your life that way right now without waiting for permission or the proper equipment. Think outside of the box and go back to your childhood play. Yes, you have it now.


How To Talk To Your Child About Cancer


The Silver Pen, an inspirational website for women created by Hollye Jacobs offers women a special gift in honor of breast cancer awareness month. Hollye, who overcame a battle with breast cancer just one year ago created the site to honor the silver linings she celebrates through all life situations as her own life value blossomed due to her awakening.

Please take a moment to view the video series she created to share her story and wisdom for helping your family to communicate more effectively when dealing with a life threatening illness like breast cancer. In the first video she explains why it is important to speak openly to children about cancer and the best way to approach the subject.

Thank you Hollye for such a remarkable and thoughtful video.

The Silver Lining: Tools for Talking with Children about Cancer from Hollye Jacobs / TheSilverPen.com on Vimeo.

To learn more about Hollye and her efforts to support women through an extreme life transition like cancer, please visit her website, The Silver Pen.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Breaking The Cycle of Teenage Pregnancy

“No matter how much talking and bopping them upside the head you do, they still have to make the decision on their own.” ~ Tarmika Patterson

She was 16 when she took her first pregnancy test. She was in love, or so she thought, and figured that having a baby with him would make the relationship last so she never considered abortion. Seventeen years later, 33-year-old Opa Locka, Florida resident Tarmika Patterson is celebrating her eldest daughter’s birthday and the fact that of all the women in her family, her daughter is the first one who didn’t become a mother before 10th grade.

“My Mom had me when she was 19, but she had my older sister when she was 16. Her Mom had kids at an early age too,” Tarmika remembers. As a teenager at William H. Turner Technical High School in Miami, Tarmika says she was afraid to have sex but also curious about what the mystery was.

“I heard all of these rumors from friend girls who said they were doing it. I felt like I was in love and he was pressuring me so I did it,” she says. “It was not all hyped up like they told me it was. I could have waited.”

Tarmika’s mother knew something was wrong when she didn’t have to buy as many sanitary napkins during the month for her four teenage daughters. “She approached me and my sister Poochie late one evening and said, ‘One of you must be pregnant,’” Tarmika recalls. “I looked at my little sister Poochie, who was 14 at the time and she looked at me. Neither of us said a word because both of us were pregnant.”

This is why last week Tarmika proudly celebrated her daughter VionShay’s 17th birthday with a photo tribute that read: We Finally Broke The Cycle.

Was there anything Tarmika’s mother could have done to prevent her daughters from continuing the legacy of teenage pregnancy? “It was about communication,” Tarmika asserts. “My Mama didn’t communicate with me about sex or anything. First of all, she could have come to me and told me that when you get your period, you can now have a baby. She could have told me about protection. She never really sat me down and talked to me about my body, about boys or becoming a woman or STD’s, none of that.”

Besides not having an open communication line with her four daughters about sex related issues, Tarmika bore the weight of low expectations from other family members. When she gave birth to her first child at the age of 16, Tarmika remembers her grandmother visiting her in the hospital and cooing over the newborn. “She’s so pretty,” her grandmother stated. “Wait around, she’s gonna have her baby by the time she turns 10.”

Tarmika was crushed by the thought and decided then and there that her daughters would not fall into the same trap. It was during a visit to the emergency room for an upset stomach that she first introduced her daughters to sex education.

“My girls were five and three years old and they were with me in the emergency room. When the doctor gave me a pregnancy test and they asked about it, I told them about how women get pregnant,” Tarmika shares. “As they grew older I made it a point to teach them about all the ways sex could go wrong. I would get on YouTube and show them videos of women having babies. I would even look up websites that showed pictures of STD’s and show them the pictures. I talked about the things that I missed out on because I had children so early too.”

“I always tell them if you have sex let me know first so I can have the boy tested for STD’s, both of you can go together,” Tarmika says. “I never try to tell them not to have sex because I feel like if you drill that in their head, that is what they are going to do.”


Although her childhood dream was to become a teacher, Tarmika is now studying nursing at Miami Dade College while she cares for her four children VionShay, 17, Joe’Kwanna, 14, Tyrese, 8 and Tyrele who is 4 years old. She uses her creative ability to create gifts, decorate and plan events to bring in extra income while her husband of 8 years supports the family.

VionShay, who is a junior in the medical magnet studying dentistry at Miami Northwestern Senior High School, has also been a cheerleader since the 9th grade. During report card time, Tarmika proudly posts pictures of VionShay’s report cards on Facebook so the world will know what an awesome daughter she has.

VionShay feels the same pride about her Mom. “She’s always talking to us and telling us stuff,” the 17 year old says. “She’s really involved, which can be annoying sometimes, but I get it. She really cares.”

While Tarmika celebrates one daughter who has broken the cycle of teenage pregnancy, VionShay’s rambunctious 14-year-old little sister Joe’Kwanna “Kwannie” is at the stage in her life where she thinks she knows it all. “I’m still working on her,” Tarmika says. “Kwannie is a whole different story.”

For mothers of teen daughters that are trying to teach their daughters not to make the same mistakes they did Tarmika says to do what you know to be right and true, communicate with them about the dangers of teenage pregnancy, tell them what you expect for their lives and don’t be so hard on yourself if your daughters still make poor choices because, “No matter how much talking and bopping them upside the head you do, they still have to make the decision on their own.”

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Childless by Choice: Sheila's Story


Sheila Olson, 37, is a Marketing Communications Manager for a large financial services company in St. Paul, Minnesota and has been married to Todd Olson, 38, for 10 years.

I was raised in a small city (population 9,000) in north-central Wisconsin. I lived with my parents and two older sisters. My grandparents, aunt, uncles and cousins were nearby. It was what I consider a very typical Midwest upbringing. I remember fantasizing about having a little brother or sister, but not so much a child of my own. I did play with dolls and when I was pre-teen I did a fair amount of babysitting. But, thinking back, I didn’t enjoy the babysitting.

I don’t hate children and I love my husband enough that if he desperately wanted them I might be open to motherhood, but, I’ve never had the desire to be a mother. I’ve witnessed parents with children with behavior problems and disabilities. Their life is not easy and I’d have a hard time with it.

I remember telling my college roommates that I would never have children and they didn’t believe me. That was more than 15 years ago. I’ve never felt like this is something I need to publicly declare. I don’t hide it -- I am open and honest with my decision and do not mind talking about it if someone asks me -- but it is a choice just like any other choice in life.

Almost all of my friends have children. They have gotten used to my choice; however, they still make comments that show they have a glimmer of hope that I will change my mind. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “But you would be such a great mom.” I interact with them the same as everyone. When we get together I don’t mind if they talk about their children – I know it is their life. I prefer that their children aren’t always with us on social occasions, but I understand the reality of the situation. A good friend had a baby just this morning. I’m absolutely thrilled for her.

I have one sister that invited me to her ultrasound when she was pregnant with my youngest nephew. She thought it would give me the desire to be a mom. I was also present for the birth of that child. Witnessing those events made me believe that pregnancy and childbirth is a true miracle – it is amazing. But, it didn’t change my mind. The pain and screaming didn’t help.

I will say that I would truly like more friends who do not have children since we would certainly have more in common and more time for social interactions. Those are hard to find. In fact, that is the hardest part about being child-free.

I enjoy the fact that I have time, freedom and more hours to dedicate to my career. The ability to travel at a moment’s notice is also a plus. No worries about my children being bullied, misbehaving, getting bad grades, getting sick, etc. I have strong empathy and couldn’t handle those things well. I have more hours to dedicate to my relationship with my husband. We are not stressed or tired from child-related issues – we don’t fight over who gets up in the middle of the night, who changes a diaper, who drives the kids to their events, etc. We are even able to sleep in on most weekends if we desire. My husband travels a lot for work and may be out of the country for two weeks straight. I certainly miss him, but I don’t feel contempt that I am home taking care of the kids by myself.

I’ve never considered that being childfree means I have a lack of places to give my love. I have three nephews and one goddaughter. I love them as if they are my blood. They know that they can always count on me. I give my love to my family, to my friends, and to my pets- currently one cat that I consider family. In addition, I can volunteer time and money to nonprofit organizations.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Don't Peak Too Early


Are you baffled by the fact that the best stuff on your life's To-Do list hasn't been checked off yet? Are you impatient about achieving your goals and seeing everything come together? Are you beating yourself up every night because your dream didn't come true that day?

Yeah. Me too.

I threw a major hissy fit last night. No, I wasn't depressed. I was super mad at myself and wondering what the hell I am doing wrong where I'm not a millionaire literary giant with my own speaking tour and mansion. What the hell? I know I have the talent, why hasn't my time come yet?

I decided to give up. I'm giving up on trying to figure out WHY it hasn't happened yet and continuing to focus on doing what I love to do. After I gave up being miserable about it, the answer was very simple. It actually came to me as that small still voice in my intuition. It said: Don't peak too early.

I sat up in bed astonished by what I heard. My mind whirled with images of people who achieved success so early in life that their later years told the tale of a steady decline into oblivion. Should I really have made all of my dreams come true by now? If so, what would I have to look forward to later?

Since nothing is permanent and all of life's circumstances are on a cycle, maybe now is the perfet time to keep building and growing and making a foundation for myself. That's what I'm doing; I'm building.

Imagine if I had already peaked at age 25, could I handle the decline of my youth, my health and my life dreams all at the same time?

Whoaaa buddy! Hold your horses, fate! I'm not ready to think about the end just yet but, I'm 32. This is a very nice age; young enough to still wonder if dreams come true, but old enough to recognize that you have to work to make them happen.

I'm okay right here. I'm okay right now.

Life is pretty good right here. I don't have to compare myself to women who are twice my age or who have been working for decades longer than I have.

I have time, I think. If I don't, I won't be able to miss out because I will be dead already.

It's too early for me to peak if I have a long life ahead of me. Let me slow down, dive into my goals and learn as much as I can before the whirlwind begins.

I forgive myself for being so hard on myself. I love myself. I thank myself.

I am okay where I am.

It's coming. The longer it takes the longer it will last.

I am okay.

Salud.

Saturday, September 1, 2012

How To Find The Answer To All of Life's Questions



What is the purpose of life?
What happens when we die?
What is love?
What does it mean to be successful?
Do I really have to be married to be happy?
Is my purpose as a woman to have children?
Is it wrong to fall in love with the same sex?
Is Karma real?


Life would make more sense if there were definitive answers to every question. The concept of 'Truth' is subjective simply because everything we know about life is made up. How so? Think about the fact that at the beginning of time, before we had this modern society, language was created to help organize and build so that we could relate to each other.

We all had to sit down and agree that certain things would be called by certain names; this is a TABLE. We all had to agree that a TABLE would be used in a certain way; this table is for eating meals.

Do you see what I am saying? Most of what you believe to be TRUTH is only TRUE because people thousands of years ago decided to establish it as a truth. Most of the expectations you have for your life were set by a bunch ancient dead guys too, yet you cower in disappointment when your life doesn't match up with the timeline they invented to give people purpose and establish order.

If this all sounds like hogwash, it's okay. It's likely you are seeking some sort of direction in life and I'm here to help. There are 3 distinct ways to find every answer to every question about life. You can choose which method of guidance you take and have fun with the answers you receive. Here's how.


1. Ask your friends and family

You can ask your friends and family for those all important questions about life that you've been pondering. I'm sure your big brother, in all of his infinite wisdom, knows the real truth. Or maybe your mother can direct you. If you choose this direction for guidance you are demonstrating that you believe with age comes wisdom, which may be true. People you seek out for wisdom and guidance will be flattered by your obedience to their opinions, yet, they won't really respect you.

The downside to seeking answers to life's questions from friends and family is the fact that you become a puppet to their opinions and influence. Every person is guided by their own set of preferences which you do not have to adopt in order to achieve your own version of success.


2. Turn To Religion
Religion has been a vibrant guiding force for centuries. You can find many of the answers to life's questions when you seek the guide book from any religion you choose or were introduced to. With absolute faith in them, they do provide a certain level of peace of mind and comfort.

The downside to seeking answer's to life's questions from religion is the fact that many religions were created by men who simply made up answers so that those with less brain power had to figure it out. You could go with those answers created to pacify your quest for an infinite truth but you're really just swallowing the fairy tales made up centuries ago.


3. Create Your Own Answers

This one is the most difficult of the three options. It means you have to think for yourself and actually own up to the decisions you make about the answers to life. This is a beautiful choice because you never have to accept the beliefs of others if they don't appeal or make sense to you. Most people won't choose this option because they don't trust themselves enough to create the rules for their own lives and that's okay.

The downside to creating your own answers to life's questions is the fact that everyone will think you are crazy. People will create prayer circles for you, hold interventions and even alienate you socially if you dare to think for yourself. Most people are so comfortable with their inherited beliefs that challenging these so called TRUTHS or watching you do it will shatter their belief that they are living life correctly and that's all people really want to do; we want to get life RIGHT.

So there you have it; 3 sure fire ways to find the answers to all of life's questions. Let me know which one you choose and how it works out for you.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Confessions of an Internet Troll


You wrote:

I am an online "troll". My angry heart has taken front and center of my personality. That anger has festered and eaten away at my own happiness. Online anonymity has increased this. It's made me much quicker to lash out and bluntly, sometimes tastelessly and tactlessly, express myself. This is a double edged sword. Since my mind has trained it's self to lash out and attack online, that training doesn't just stop when I get off the computer. That instinctual response to lash out and be nasty overflows to my interactions with people whom I love the most, causing so much damage. My birthday is just two days away; I'll be turning 20 and it really hurts my heart that my family relationships are so fragile and ruined thanks to this troll that dwells inside of me.

Things have gotten so bad that I'll be having a lonely birthday :( I really just need to pour my soul out and you seem less judgmental, yet possess more sweet critique than most people I know. I'd really appreciate it if you could find the time to message me back and give me any possible advice, help, suggestions, anything! I don't want to spend another year alive letting relationships and possibilities rot away because I've been hurt and it feels better to get mad about it than to be sad. I'd love to eliminate this issue before I have children of my own and pursue serious romantic relationships so please, please pretty please with extra whip cream, a cherry, some butterscotch toppings and some buttery sweet peanut toppings with a little squeeze of tangerine juice on the side, please help me out. I know I can't be the only person who feels this way and experiences this dissatisfaction. I'm sure a lot of people could benefit from your insight on this topic as well.


My REPLY:

Hi. Thanks for writing and for even wanting to change the way things are. I can imagine that you are angry with yourself for being a person who hurts others but you can not stop because you are hurting so much inside that you can't help but release your feelings in this way.

The internet is a powerful tool and many of us use it to express ourselves in a way that we feel we can not socially. I happen to write erotica and post it online. In real life I cringe at the thought of sexual experiences because they have not been good for me. Do you see what I do differently than you do? Although I am a bit angry about not having had good sexual experiences, instead of lashing out in anger(which I do sometimes), I take the time to use my creative energy to fantasize and increase my professional writing portfolio which means my frustration now adds value to my life. I also focus on what I want to receive instead of what I do not want to receive; this makes all the difference in your life satisfaction.

My main piece of advice is for you to find a way to make money from your "skill". Become a critic blogger or a dominatrix. You don't really have to 'fix' this issue, all you have to do is redirect it so that it becomes something that adds value to your life.

If you really want to fix the issue, let's examine it. When most people lash out they do so out of frustration because there is something in their life they feel powerless about. They desire something that they believe they can not have and it makes them irritable and annoyed.

What you are frustrated about in your own life? What motivates you to read things online and then express your displeasure about them? Anytime we actively seek out things to criticize it is probably a sign that we are overly critical of ourselves. What is it about yourself that you think is wrong and should be fixed, well, besides this little issue we're exploring?

Do you have expectations of yourself or others that are not being realized? Did someone hurt you? Do you not meet your own expectations for your life? The only way to release the anger of not meeting your own expectations or not having others meet your own expectations is to understand that you can not have everything you want, not when it comes to how others interact with you. You can not MAKE anyone interact with you the way you want them too.

Life is not supposed to be scripted. You are not supposed to walk the precise path of your imagination. Your imagination is limited and life is more abundant than anything that you can perceive. Let life take its course and roll with it. It's okay for things NOT to turn out the way you want them too. Release the need to be in control all of the time. If things don't go your way, simply say, "That's life sometimes," and then set a new goal or walk in a new direction.

As far as you lashing out on the internet, I would suggest you take a more constructive way of releasing your frustration with your life.

  • Get physical. With the same passion that you would type out a nasty remark, start running to exercise and release your angst. A better hobby would be boxing; women can benefit from that too.
  • Write a story about a bitter woman who changes her ways and describe what happens in her life. Streamline your talent for communication into a field that could be profitable.

I don't want you to push away the people in your life and I know you are hurting because you already have. To make all of these relationships better I suggest you speak to anyone you truly care about and apologize sincerely for your past behavior. Tell them that you are working on being different and you are tired of being angry. You don't have to explain any further. To reveal something as heartfelt as this will help you to bond with them again.

In order to STOP cursing people out, please stop being so angry with yourself. I find that my extreme judgment of people stems from a place of inner dissatisfaction. Whenever I am disappointed in my own progress, I am often critical of others.

Be okay with who you are right now. Decide you will be okay with what comes your way in the future. There is nothing that can completely destroy your life; please accept this as fact. There is nothing you can do to ruin your entire future. No matter what happens, you can redirect your path and still be happy. You are destined for happiness as soon as you let go of your anger.

You can do this. One day at a time, friend.

It's okay. You're okay.

Let me know how things work out for you.

Love,

Te-Erika

Saturday, August 18, 2012

Don't Cheat To Win; Be Number 3


A friend of mine recently mentioned to me that she was accused of cheating. We both laughed at the notion simply because we both hold the same mentality about it. It's not that we are prudish or fear karma or the wrath of god; we simply do not cheat because we do not need to win.

Think about a person who strategically maneuvers situations so that they will come out on top. That person is crafty, intelligent and cunning and SHOULD come out on top of every situation due to their manipulations and extra effort. The flip side to a person who will do whatever it takes to win is the sad reality that the person is desperately seeking validation from others. They NEED to win, to be applauded, to be labeled the BEST because they need to hear it from others or they won't feel worthy.

Cheaters are losers because they feel that they can not win by their own merits. They don't believe in their abilities and desperately need to be awarded by others regardless of their real talent. If you feel that you need to be number ONE at everything, pause, take that manipulative energy and streamline it toward actually becoming GREAT at what you love to do.

Greatness isn't defined by how many awards you've earned. Anyone can win a trophy after sabotaging their competition and that is why awards from others mean nothing. True greatness is defined by the amount of pride you have in yourself when you have completed a task or project.

You can be GREAT at anything and you don't need a committee to select you. All you need is your own knowledge that you did what you love to do with the greatest amount of energy and passion you possess and what you produced is your very best effort.

You don't have to cheat. Let the woman who desperately needs to be number one, be number one. Let her have that status, she needs it more than you do or she'll cry every night. I say, be number 3. There's less pressure to maintain that status, a few rewards and you can still stand among the top in your game without having to hurt anyone in the process.


Wednesday, August 15, 2012

The Rebuild Your Life Project $4,000 Grant For Women

MySavvySisters.Com presents the 2012 Women's Empowerment outreach- The Rebuild Your Life Project- Los Angeles.

This project will teach you to overcome your fear of moving to a new city by allowing you to watch Te-Erika Patterson, the publisher of MySavvySisters.Com as she relocates to Los Angeles, California, a city she had never even visited before, with no money, no friends and no stable place to live. Follow her on her journey in videos posted almost daily on her youtube channel.

You will learn:

How to decide which city to move to
How to gain the confidence you need to make a big move
How to prepare to move
What you can do when people try to stop you
How to find a place to live
How to make friends
How to keep your cool when things don't go the way you planned
How to turn frustration into something beautiful
and so much more...


The Rebuild Your Life Project Grant For Women
The Rebuild Your Life Project- Los Angeles will also award one woman in Los Angeles with a $4,000 grant to help her to REBUILD HER LIFE.

Te-Erika has contributed $1,000 toward this grant from her tips and wages as a waitress at Denny's.




We are actively looking for the lucky woman who will receive a helping hand financially from MySavvySisters.Com.

Qualifications:


1)Must be a female.
2) 25 years of age or older.
3) Must live in Los Angeles county.
4) Must agree to participate in an interview that will be posted online sharing the story of your life and how this grant would help you to move forward in life.

We are looking for a woman who is working diligently to improve her situation and has already made significant strides. We want to hear from women who are going back to school, saving to buy a car, ready to move into a home of their own, have worked through school and have graduated, etc.

We are looking for women who are proud of their accomplishments and have already turned their lives around and would appreciate this assistance to help them reach new heights.

All women who apply will be personally interviewed on video and the winner will be chosen from those video submissions.

The winner will be chosen in October and announced on our youtube channel, Embrace Your Fantasy.


To Apply


Send an email to RebuildYourLife[at]MySavvySisters.Com with your name, age, telephone number and a brief description of how you have worked to improve your life. You will be contacted by phone and a meeting will be arranged if you are chosen as a finalist.

To read about some of the other women that have benefited financially from MySavvySisters.Com visit our Give-Aways section.

To donate to this amazing cause you can:

Visit Te-Erika on the overnight shift at Denny's in North Hollywood, California

Denny's
11377 Burbank Boulevard
North Hollywood, CA
(818) 980-4562


Donate Via paypal







Or send a check to:

Te-Erika Patterson
PO Box 221736
Hollywood, Florida 33022


Good Luck! Let's Rebuild Our Lives Together!

Monday, July 30, 2012

Top 10 Signs of Mental Maturity In Women


By Te-Erika Patterson

1. We let go of the idea that there is a prescribed timeline of events for life. We release the expectations of life milestones and begin to look at life as it really is, an unscripted adventure. We allow others to live their lives as they wish, without judging them because we appreciate being free to do the same.

2. We release the notion that other women are our competition. All efforts to sabotage the success of other women becomes silly to us and we seek to form alliances instead of enemies.

3. Instead of believing unfavorable circumstances will leave permanent scars that we will never recover from, we understand that those scars are really the seasoning that makes our lives flavorful. We learn to roll with the punches.

4. We understand that we are no longer teenagers and we begin to appreciate our bodies as they are. Good health takes precedence over a flat stomache and we become grateful for LIFE.

5. We stop believing everything we hear and stop repeating gossip and idle conversation that are of no benefit to us.

6. We do what makes us happy, regardless of what others think.

7. We stop trying to prove how knowledgable we are and begin to understand that there is a lot to learn from others.

8. We learn to forgive ourselves quickly.

9. When choosing romantic partners, pleasant companionship becomes more important than passion.

10. We understand that all endings lead to new beginnings and begin to appreciate the cycle of life.

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